A story was recently shared online about a man who decided to propose to his girlfriend at his friend’s wedding. This act usually brings up many strong opinions on both sides of the argument, and this time was no different.
Something unusual about this particular situation was that it was mentioned the bride and groom were not aware that their friend was going to “pop the question” on their big day.
This detail, in our opinion, draws a very clear line in the sand between right and wrong.
In the past, couples getting married have welcomed and even encouraged their friends to get engaged during their wedding festivities. But pulling attention from a couple on their wedding day and not even giving them a heads up? This seems to be a clear violation of wedding etiquette – wediquette, if you will.
First, this is a day that is not about you and your, hopefully, soon-to-be fiancé. This is about your friends and the couple who have already gotten engaged. They’ve been planning for this day for many months, maybe even years, and to pull any attention from that could be met with resentment and irritation.
In addition to the time and money spent on this day, a wedding does have an order of events to the day. There is usually a wedding planner, or the venue’s attendant, that is behind the scenes making sure everything follows suite. Is the couple where they should be for the first dance? Was the cake cut in enough time to toss the bouquet? Is the band ready for the second line to close the night out? These are only a few examples of perfect timing needed to make sure a wedding is executed flawlessly.
If something unexpected gets thrown into this timeline, it could throw off the whole night.
All this said, if a couple welcomes it or even offers to set the events in motion (and it’s something your fiancé-to-be will be OK with), then you’ve been given the only blessing you need. Though, we would always encourage picking something more personal and special to begin your new journey as newlyweds.
