There are many moving and memorable parts when it comes to a wedding. From what the bride wears to the design of the cake – anything can be a show-stopping moment. The couple’s first dance is also in that list. Whether opting for a choreographed number or just a loving moment between two people, it can be an elegant and classic moment that seemingly has always been an understood piece to the wedding puzzle.
Recently, a couple we know opted for a bit of a choreographed first dance. Nothing too eccentric, but it was obvious that they included a turn here and a sway there at specific moments during the song. And that got us thinking – should we put more emphasis on the first dance? Is it still an important moment or is it just another tick off the wedding checklist?
The first dance, it is believed, dates back centuries when flamboyant balls were a regular occurrence – mostly in Europe with kings, queens and other members of the nobility. During this time, it was customary that the hosts of the party, or a guest of honor, would begin the entertainment of the evening by opening with a first dance.
Though we are very interested in European royalty — New Orleans was founded by the French after all — balls and galas aren’t necessarily the dancing extravaganza they were in history’s past. (Kelly here: if we’re being honest, it’s my least favorite part of a wedding. It is however important to getting the night going and for that, I love it and the possibilities it holds). Recently, modern couples have brought different twists to this historic tradition with full on choreographed productions making the moment a little less serious. Some have even made the moment a group affair, including their bridal party into the mix. One trend we do love, is including a “last dance” with the couple – a moment at the end of the night, once everyone has left, that’s just for them.
No matter which option you choose, many people are focused solely on which song will represent them as a couple in their first dance.
Previously, we’ve shared popular songs and picks from our staff.
As with every aspect of your wedding celebration, however, the song you pick as your first dance — if you decide to do that at all — is all about your personal preferences and personality as a couple. If there is a song that’s meaningful to your relationship or one that you both just love, go for it!
