Wediquette Wednesday: Are guest favors mandatory?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue.


Question: My fiancé and I are working with a strict budget and also, our philosophy is ‘waste not, want not.’ Because of the budget and that shared philosophy, we’d rather not do favors at the wedding reception, because we can’t think of one friend or family member in need of another koosie, matchbook or go-cup, even if it has our monogram on it. Are guest favors mandatory?

Answer: It’s great that you and your fiancé are on the same page regarding both your budget and your spending and consuming philosophy. Favors, you’ll be happy to learn, are not mandatory and it’s likely that no one will miss that particular aspect of your wedding if it’s omitted. Another option is to donate a sum you can afford to your favorite charity and place a card at each table stating, “In lieu of favors, we’ve made a donation to XYZ charity.” But, either way, if you decide not to do favors, it’s your call and nothing has to be announced either way. Good luck with your upcoming wedding and marriage!


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