Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: A friend of the family just got engaged and I was invited to the engagement party. I’ll also be included in at least one shower, the bachelorette party and the wedding. I’ll of course bring a gift to the showers and bachelorette and buy a wedding gift. I wasn’t sure about the engagement party though. Are you supposed to bring a separate gift to the engagement party? 

Answer: It’s of course always a lovely gesture to give an engagement gift, but it isn’t a requirement. If it’s in your budget and you want to do it, go for it. Just be sure to send it in advance so the couple doesn’t have to deal with hauling it home. 

Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.