Wediquette Wednesday: Are you supposed to mail a wedding shower invitation to the bride and groom?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: My fellow bridesmaids and the groomsmen in my friend’s wedding are hosting a couple’s shower. Are we supposed to mail an invitation to the couple or should we just invite them in person?

Answer: Since they are the guests of honor, it’s customary to just let them know the date, time and place. However, it’s thoughtful to set aside a copy of the invitation as a keepsake for their wedding album or for a framed collection of the party and wedding stationery.

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(Note: An earlier version of post originally published on June 10, 2015)



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