Wediquette Wednesday: As a bridesmaid, do I have to bring a gift to each shower?


Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we’re running an excerpt from Dee Lane’s etiquette column in our New Orleans Bride Magazine Winter-Spring 2019 issue.


Question: I’m a bridesmaid for a dear friend and I live in the same town as she does. She’s very lucky to have multiple groups of people wanting to throw her many, many showers, and since I’m in town, I’ve been invited to all of them. I’m happy to represent the bridal party (her sister is also here, but the other bridesmaids all live out of town), but do I really have to bring a gift to each one?

Answer: Unfortunately, yes, you do. But you don’t have to give big gifts for every event. You can’t show up empty handed, but you can and should go big on the wedding gift and smaller on the rest. Try to stick to the registry but give a nice bottle opener along with a bottle of her favorite wine or a cheese knife set with a small gift certificate to a local cheese shop. You don’t have to spend much, but don’t re-gift something; this is the time to give something you know she’ll like without breaking the bank.



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