Wediquette Wednesday: As a groom, can my sisters be my attendants or do I have to have all guys?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: My fiancée and I are planning our wedding and I’m struggling with who to ask to be my attendants. She is planning to have four bridesmaids, with two of them being her sisters. I have three sisters and we are really close. I’d rather have them stand up with me along with my best male friend than have four guy friends. As a groom, can my three sisters be my attendants or do I have to have all guys?

Answer: In the past, couples have kept an even number on each side with female attendants and male groomsmen. However, over the past couple of decades, wedding parties have evolved to include a mix of attendants on each side (bridesmen and groomswomen, if you want titles). Related: With LGBTQ+ weddings it’s challenging to stick with the traditional attendant lineup. Long story short, do what makes you happy. When it comes to attire, your sisters could go with anything from dresses to jumpsuits in black or the wedding colors or tuxes fitted to their measurements.

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