Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: Due to COVID, my fiancé and I have scaled back our wedding to include only our closest family and friends. We’ll have about 50 people in attendance, outdoors, socially distanced, masked and following all of the precautions. There are some friends we weren’t able to include on the guest list, but that I’d love to have with us during the bachelorette party. Can friends not invited to the wedding attend the bachelorette party?

Answer: It’s customary to reserve invites for the engagement party, showers and the bachelor and bachelorette parties only for those invited to the wedding. While the pandemic has upended many of the traditional rules, this is one we think couples should stick with to keep guestlists curbed for safety, to cut down on decision making throughout the process (there are already so many to be made) and to decrease potential confusion and hurt feelings for guests at being included in one or two aspects, but not the main event.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.