Wediquette Wednesday: Can I announce my engagement at my sister’s wedding?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: My sister is getting married this weekend. My fiancé proposed this past weekend and we haven’t yet announced the engagement. My sister suggested that we do it at her wedding, but this feels wrong to meShe swears she would love it and has even offered to make the announcement for us after the toasts to her and her spouse-to-be. Can I announce my engagement at my sister’s wedding? 

Answer: Normally announcing your own engagement, pregnancy or other big life news at someone else’s wedding, engagement party, shower, birthday or any other celebration in a person or couple’s honor is a big no-no. But if the bride herself suggests it and wants to do the honors, then it’s acceptable. Go for it!

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