Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: A family member’s wedding is coming up in two weeks. The couple extended a plus one to me on my invitation. At the time, I was seeing a great guy, but it was really new and I decided to fly solo to the wedding. Things are going so well, we’ve decided to be exclusive and now I’d really like for him to be my date. Can I change my R.S.V.P. to two guests if I was initially given a plus one?

Answer: There is so much work and angst that goes into creating a guest list, not to mention the cost per person. If you’ve already R.S.V.P.’d, refrain from changing it, especially to add a guest. This will put unnecessary pressure on the couple to rearrange seating and, potentially, create a strain in their budget. Certainly your new boo can spend an evening without you by his side and will understand that these plans were made prior to your relationship getting more serious.


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