Wediquette Wednesday: Can I change my ‘yes’ R.S.V.P. to ‘no,’ due to the omicron surge?
Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: My friend is getting married in about two weeks. Originally, I planned to attend, given vaccinations and loosened restrictions. With the omicron surge and this strain being so contagious however, I no long feel good about it. Can I change my ‘yes’ R.S.V.P. to ‘no,’ due to the omicron surge?
Answer: Typically, its bad form to cancel this close to the event, unless it’s an emergency. The pandemic however has taught us that we simply have to be more flexible with everything, including the usual etiquette. It’s times like these that communication becomes our greatest tool. Call your friend as soon as possible about the change in your R.S.V.P. Be honest about your reason and your discomfort, but don’t pass judgement on the plans to move forward. Indicate that this is a personal decision, you hope they can understand and that you hope the Big Day is as perfect as it can be. If you haven’t already, send along your gift and a card. It should be early enough for the couple to remove your meal from the catering order. Fingers crossed that the couple is open to flexibility and rolling with whatever comes their way.
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