Wediquette Wednesday: Can I fire one of my bridesmaids?


Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we’re running an excerpt from Dee Lane’s etiquette column in our New Orleans Bride Magazine Winter-Spring 2019 issue.


Question: I asked an old friend of mine to be a bridesmaid because we had always promised each other that we’d be in each other’s weddings, but we’re not as close as we used to be and she doesn’t seem to want to be a part of everything. She’s showing up late, hasn’t had her dress fitted or paid for it, and the other bridesmaids say she’s been getting tipsy and saying inappropriate things. Can I fire her?

Answer: We’ve all seen the results of firing a bridesmaid go viral, and no one wants their wedding to be famous for something like that. Unfortunately, unless you want to end your relationship with this friend, you’re just going to have to grin and bear it. If you have a wedding planner, have her reach out and say she’s taking over that bridesmaid’s responsibilities, like planning a brunch, bridal party or shower; you can also ask your planner to check in on her dress. If you don’t have a planner, ask your maid of honor to check in on all the bridesmaids — about their responsibilities, dress, and so forth — so you’re not singling anyone out.



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