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Wediquette Wednesday: Can I invite my future in-laws to help plan the wedding?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: After the holidays, my fiancé and I are going to launch into wedding planning mode. I know that traditionally, the bride’s family pays for the wedding and assists with planning, but I’m very close to my future in-laws and want to include them in the activities of this special time. They both are so excited and live for this sort of thing. Can I invite my future in-laws help plan the wedding?

Answer: It’s very thoughtful of you to think about your future husband’s parents, as often the soon-to-be in-laws feel left out of the process. After you’ve decided on the date, location and style of wedding, invite them and your parents to brunch, dinner or for cocktails to discuss. They will likely let you know how involved they want to be and you can begin to divvy up “assignments” to get things kicked off. Going forward, they can indicate if and how much they want to contribute financially as well. Let them pitch in and keep them informed along the way.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.



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