Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: My friend is getting married and I’m a bridesmaid. The wedding is outdoors this spring, so I felt good about saying yes. I’m vaccinated and boosted, as is the couple, wedding party, the parents and everyone’s siblings. There are several events between now and the wedding, including the bachelorette party. Some of the events are outdoors, but others are indoors. Some events will include only the bridal party and immediate family, but others will be larger with friends and other family members whose vax status I don’t know and won’t know. With the Omicron surge, I don’t feel comfortable attending the indoor gatherings with guests outside of the bridal party and immediate family, even with the vaccination proof and testing mandates, since omicron is so contagious, even for vaccinated individuals. I want to be responsible and safe whenever reasonably possible. Can I skip some bridesmaid events due to the COVID-19 Omicron surge?
Answer: Normally, bridesmaids are expected to attend as many events as possible, but there are no requirements. Pre-pandemic, work and family or illness, as well as social obligations agreed to prior to saying yes to become an attendant were all acceptable reasons for missing a wedding-related event, including the bachelorette party. With the exception of the wedding ceremony and reception, of course. Discuss your concerns with the bride. Share the events you feel comfortable attending. Extra communication, compassion and grace are called for these days, so fingers crossed the bride will understand.
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