Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we are offering up a common question about the walk down the aisle.
Question: Without going into specifics, my father has never been in the picture and my mom hasn’t remarried and doesn’t have a significant other in her life. I’m very close with my grandfather and uncle, both on my mother’s side, and don’t want to have to pick between the two. Can someone besides my father walk me down the aisle? If so, can two people do it?
Answer: While it’s customary for the bride’s father to accompany her down the aisle, that’s not always preferred or possible. It’s wonderful that both your grandfather and uncle have stepped up as important men in your life. I can’t think of a better way to honor them than to have them by your side as you walk up to the altar. This can be done with one on each arm or by having one start, “hand you off” in the middle and then the other can escort you to the front. For anyone else facing a similar dilemma, it’s fine for anyone with whom you have a close relationship to walk you done the aisle. The person or people can be male or female, friend or relative. It’s entirely up to you! Plan in advance so he or she can prepare and be sure to give them a special thank you.