Wediquette Wednesday: Can the couple’s guests sit on the ceremony side where they can best view their family member or friend?
Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: My wedding is coming up and my mom insists that my guests have to sit on the left and my husband-to-be’s guests have to sit on the right. When a friend of mine got married last year, they sat her guests on the right, so we could all see her face throughout the ceremony and we all loved it! Also when my husband’s brother got married, he and his now husband let people pick their own seats — either side was fine. I guess traditionally the bride’s guests go on the left, but my fiancé and I love this new-to-us way of doing it, because our loved ones get to see our reactions to everything. Can the couple’s guests sit on the ceremony side where they can best view their family member or friend?
Answer: First, I love this idea! It makes so much more sense to do it this way for the exact reasons you mentioned. Second, even before the legalization of same sex weddings and the decline of gendered language and practices, couples were often eschewing the tradition of “picking sides” for ceremony seating. As with many things, some couples do still opt to have their guests seated on opposite sides, but it isn’t a hard-and-fast rule. Many allow guests to decide where they’d like to sit, but it’s truly up to you as a couple.
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