Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.


Question: My wedding isn’t until next year, but we started planning about the time everything started shutting down due to the pandemic. While if feels a little weird to be planning our wedding at a time like this, the dreaming and planning has been a really nice distraction. We’ve been able to do a ton online, but we were hoping to get started on our cake tastings over the next couple of weeks, because the bakers we love are really popular and we don’t want to put it off and risk our favorite being booked next year on our date. But with everything being done online, on the phone or via video conferencing, we are mystified at a backup plan for this aspect of the wedding. How can we taste the cakes if we can’t meet with the bakers in person and go to their bakeries? Can we do virtual and remote wedding cake testing?

Answer: I agree that wedding dreaming and planning is a wonderful break from the tragic events unfolding around us all right now. It’s important to take time away from the news and focus on love, beauty, our relationships and things that we enjoy. I honestly can’t think of anything more enjoyable than cake testing. My advice is to book Zoom, Skype or Facetime video conferences with your favorite bakers. During the meetings, once you determine which flavors you want to try, ask if there is a way to schedule a no contact pickup or drop off of the samples. Right now, wedding vendors are coming up with a slew of creative ways to continue serving clients and potential clients. I’m certain your bakers will be happy to accommodate this request or brainstorm other solutions. Happy tasting!


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