Wediquette Wednesday: Do I have to buy a gift from the wedding registry?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My niece is getting married to her long-time boyfriend next month. For years, she has talked about how much she’d love to have a set of vintage monogrammed linen napkins, but this is not on the registry. It would give me great pleasure to gift this item to she and her fiancé. Do I have to buy a gift from the wedding registry?

Answer: I’m a big fan of sticking to the registry, to avoid duplicates and returns. That said, there is no rule against buying gifts that are not on the registry. This is especially true when doting aunts have tucked away the idea for a thoughtful gift they know the couple will love and cherish.


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