Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we’re discussing bridal shower games.
Question: I’m not a big fan of the cheesy games played during bridal showers, such as making a wedding dress out of toilet tissue. Do I have to have games at my bridal shower? If not, how do I express this to my bridesmaids and maid of honor?
Answer: While bridal shower games can be fun icebreakers, not everyone enjoys it. Your bridesmaids or whoever is hosting the shower, should meet with you to discern your likes, dislikes and other preferences during the planning stages of the event. This is the perfect time to discuss your dislike of games and perhaps suggest a door prize. Be sure to keep in mind that this party is a celebration of and for you, so don’t make excessive demands, especially concerning the budget or anything that will affect the cost of the party. To avoid hurt feelings, approach the conversation with kindness and humor — especially if your host is a grand lover of games. If she just won’t budge, ask if it’s OK to at least work with you on the number and type of games. For example, set a limit to one to three and, if you think it would be awkward to play something risqué in front of your conservative grandmother, negotiate away from anything too saucy.
Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.
(Editor’s Note: An earlier version of this post published on April 8, 2015.)
