Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue.


Question: There are several friends and family members on both my side and my fiancé’s who let us know when they got the save-the-date cards that they unfortunately can’t come to the wedding. Some are out of the country at the time or have already committed to another wedding and one in particular, my dear aunt, has unpredictable health issues. Do I have to send invitations to people I know can’t attend the wedding?

Answer: Since you don’t want people to think you are making a gift grab, it’s best to refrain from sending an invitation to those who gave you early regrets. That said, for close friends or family members, consider sending an invitation with a note letting them know you are sending it as a memento. This will likely be most appreciated by your ailing aunt. Here’s to hoping she’s feeling up to it for your Big Day.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.



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