Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we’re talking the rules of the name game.



Question: My given name is Carolyn, after my grandmother, but I’ve always gone by Cari. My family, friends and husband-to-be would likely be confused to hear Carolyn during the ceremony, because no one ever uses it. Do I have to use my given name during the wedding ceremony?

Answer: It’s perfectly acceptable to ask the officiant, priest or preacher to use the name you go by during the ceremony. However, be sure to use your legal name on the marriage license and any other official documents.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.