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Wediquette Wednesday: Do parents give a wedding day gift to their child’s spouse-to-be?

Young Man Receiving A Gift From His Father.

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member, and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: Our son is getting married to his long-term partner this year. There will be several co-ed showers and then, of course, the Big Day. We are bringing a gift to each of the showers, but weren’t sure what to do on the day of the wedding. Do parents give a wedding day gift to their child’s spouse-to-be?

Answer: You are on the right track by bringing gifts to the showers. Since there is more than one shower, it’s OK to bring small gifts. Or to do one larger at the main shower and go smaller from that point. Traditionally, the parents might give a more sentimental gift on the day of the wedding, such as a family heirloom, to formally welcome the spouse-to-be into the family. But again, this doesn’t have to be a large or expensive gift. This is particularly true if you are contributing financially to the wedding.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.

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