Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: My partner and I have decided that we want our wedding guests to wear cocktail attire for our evening wedding. We’re going to have our female attendants wear whatever style of black cocktail dress they like most or that best flatters them. The male attendants will wear black suits with black shirts and ties. We are going to wear all cream. We aren’t planning to dictate what our parents wear other than asking our fathers to wear black suits to match the attendants (but they can do white shirts and whatever ties they want). For our moms, we are also asking them to go with black cocktail attire to keep on theme with the attendants and dads. We want them to wear what they’d like, but also for them to match one another’s vibe. Do the couple’s moms coordinate their wedding attire?

Answer: Yes, traditionally, the couple’s moms would coordinate with one another in advance so that their attire is complementary, but not matching. Unless the couple specifies, the colors can be whatever they choose, but again, something complementary. 

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