Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My fiancé and I both dislike sweets and would rather skip the entire wedding cake cutting and eating. We plan instead to have a dessert bar, for the guests, and then also a savory snack bar for those who, like us, aren’t into the sweet stuff. Do we have to do the wedding cake thing?

Answer: The short answer is: No, it’s your party and you can do as you please! That said, the cake cutting ceremony is generally a cue to guests that it’s OK to leave (without appearing rude). If there is a way to work in some sort of mention that you won’t be doing cake, perhaps during the toasts, and tell guests of the dessert and savory snacks bar, it would go a long way toward helping everyone feel informed.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.