Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My mom insists that we have to send guests home with wedding favors. She’s pushing hard for koozies, because she has seen everyone else doing it for years. My preference is snacks, because after a night of dancing and drinking, I’m always so famished and am thrilled when we go to weddings and are handed something to nibble on as we leave the reception. Do we have to gift wedding favors?

Answer: The good news is, it’s up to you. The tradition dates back to the European bonbonnieres (sweets presented in porcelain boxes as a show of wealth). Later it was Jordan almonds and now, anything you can think of with the couples name, the wedding date and sometimes a fun tagline or illustration. Snacks however are definitely also in the mix. Pick a favorite treat of you and your betrothed, whether it’s bags of Zapp’s, pre-packaged Lucky Dogs, corndogs or sliders, cookies or mini-doughnuts with mini cartons of milk — you name it. Have fun with it and send your guests away with a smile.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.