Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: My fiancé and I are working on invitations. We are the first in our friend group to get married. Some of our friends are in long-term relationships, but others are either single or in newer relationships. We’ve decided not to do plus ones for the single friends, because they all know each other and are planning to come together and make a night of it. We are not sure what to do with the friends in newer relationships however, because we heard that you only invite couples that are living together, engaged or married. Do we include plus ones to our wedding for our friends in newer relationships?
Answer: The old rule of thumb was indeed to only invite couples that are living together, engaged or married. However, these days the rule is six months and over, or even less if the couple considers the relationship serious. This might mean some investigating on your part, but it’ll be worth it in the long run to ask your friends about where they are in the relationship, so that you can avoid hurt feelings. It’s time also to put your own personal feelings aside about how serious you think they are or whether or not you like the boy or girlfriend. Some of this also boils down to the budget, so if there are any friends or relatives you aren’t very close to that are in new relationships, it might be time to consider a few hard trims and omit those couples in favor of the people you are closest to and who will be there to truly support and help nurture your marriage.
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