Wediquette Wednesday: Do we send a gift if we can’t attend the virtual wedding?


Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: Our friend’s daughter is getting married next month and, due to COVID-19, it will be a very small, family-only ceremony. We think this is very responsible of everyone involved and appreciate the many things they are doing to include loved ones who aren’t included in the physical event. For example, they had a fun virtual engagement party, complete with a favor box mailed out to the guests. We also participated in one of the showers they streamed online and they are planning to stream the wedding. We are unfortunately unable to participate in the virtual wedding, due to a prior commitment. We are assuming the same rules apply when it comes to gifting. (As in, you still send a gift if you are invited to a physical wedding, but cannot attend.) But we wanted to check and make sure we are on the right track, since all of this virtual stuff is new to us! Do we send a gift if we can’t attend the virtual wedding?

Answer: It’s great that your friend’s and her daughter and her spouse-to-be are being so responsible about safety during this stressful time. You are correct that yes, you go ahead and send along the gift, just as you would if you were unable to attend the physical wedding.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email



Digital Sponsors

Become a sponsor ...