Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: After sending out our save the dates, several people let us know they couldn’t attend the wedding due to travel and other commitments. Which we completely understand. My fiancé says we don’t have to send invitations since we know they aren’t coming, but my mom says we should. Help! Do we still have to send invitations to loved ones we know can’t attend the wedding?

Answer: If you sent a save the date then yes, the rule is to send an invitation. If you don’t send the invitation, that implies they aren’t still invited. It may seem like a waste of pricy stationery and postage, but think of it as backup, in case plans change and the family member, friend or colleague frees up and is able to attend the event.


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