Wediquette Wednesday: Do you have to bring a gift to the wedding if you brought one to the shower?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we’re answering a question that came to us via Facebook from reader Erin Marie.


Question: When [the couple has a lot of] wedding showers, what’s the [gift] etiquette? I usually do a shower present then wedding present, but my limit is two per wedding.


Answer: It’s customary to bring a gift to only the first shower you attend and then also a wedding gift. When invited to multiple showers in addition to the wedding, first decide upon a total budget. Determine your overall spending according to what you can realistically afford and your relationship to the couple. If it’s in your budget to bring a small token gift to each shower, then a larger gift to the wedding, go for it. If not, split the total budget into an amount for a smaller gift for the first shower you attend and a separate wedding gift.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email

For more advice by New Orleans Bride Magazine etiquette columnist Dee Lane, check out her most recent column in the new Winter/Spring 2015 issue or her column from the Summer 2014 issue.




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