Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My fiancé and I have our heart set on an elegant and formal black tie wedding. Our dream is to make it a special, romantic evening for us and our guests, with everyone dressed to the nines. How can I get guests to dress in formal attire for my wedding?

Answer: Most guests will be happy to oblige your requests. That said, formal attire, even when rented, can be a little pricy. Allow for your guests to work within their budget by putting “black tie optional” on your save-the-dates and invitations, rather than “formal attire.” This indicates to guests that in addition to tuxedos and gowns, dark suits and cocktail dresses are also appropriate attire for the evening.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.


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