Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: We are working on our guest list for the wedding. There are several people my parents want to invite to the wedding, which is of course expected and A-OK. But there are two people they’ve mentioned that for personal reasons I’d rather not have present on this special day. How can I tell my parents I don’t want to invite certain people to the wedding?

Answer: Generally, couples give parents a certain number of invitations to use as they wish. If there are people who make you feel uncomfortable or you don’t want to share in your day for any reason, it’s important to discuss this with you parents. Have an honest conversation with them about the guest list and your personal wishes. They may not agree with you about your decision, which is OK. Their feelings are valid. But, be clear about the situation and ask them to respect your decision.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.