Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My mom is getting remarried in a few months after being divorced from my dad for about seven years. The family is overjoyed for her and loves her fiancé. Mom is concerned about inviting guests who were at the first wedding, because she doesn’t want them to feel obligated to buy a gift. How can we let guests know not to buy gifts for second wedding?

Answer: Congratulations to your mom and the family at this happy time. Tell your mom it’s fine to invite guests who attended the first wedding. You, other family members and close friends can spread the word to second-time around attendees that their presence is present enough for your mom and her husband-to-be. Some may decide to gift the couple despite the request, which is their choice and I’m sure your mom and soon-to-be stepdad will be touched at the gesture.


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