Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: My daughter would like for her wedding guests to provide gift cards to either Home Depot or Lowes, because they want to do home improvement projects that are much needed. How to do incorporate that into the wedding invitation?
Answer: Congratulations on your daughter’s wedding! The short answer is that wedding registry information is not customarily included in the invitation. It’s something people are doing more and more often, so I understand why there is confusion on the topic. While many people see including registry information in the invitation as helpful and a time-saver for guests, this is not the place for these details. Rather, as mentioned in an earlier post on the subject, and to summarize Lizzie Post from the Emily Post Institute and the “Awesome Etiquette” podcast, the invitation is a place to show loved ones they are important to you and your soon-to-be spouse and that you want them with you when you make such a life altering commitment. Adding in other details and inserts waters down the significance of the message. When it comes to registry information, the couple should always leave it up to family, friends and the wedding party to serve as ambassadors and spread the word about special requests and registry locations. It’s also fine to add this information to the wedding website, if the couple has one. If anyone asks, it’s fine to mention all of the details and the couple’s wishes, but let him or her bring it up.
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