Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we are answering a reader question about same-sex weddings.

Question: My cousin is marrying her longtime girlfriend next month in a small, family-only ceremony here in New Orleans. I just got the invitation in the mail and am excited to share this special day with two people I adore and who have waited so long to tie the knot. After they are married and are no longer girlfriends, how do I introduce them to friends and family? Partners? Wives? Spouses? They are very important to me and I want to get it right.

Answer: It’s lovely of you to be so thoughtful about their wishes and preferences. The best thing to do is ask! I’m sure they will appreciate the question and the love and thoughtfulness behind it. Another good way to find out, for anyone who for whatever reason feels shy about asking, is to listen to what they call one another and to how they make introductions and do as they do. Have fun at the wedding!

Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.