Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.) Today’s question is answered by New Orleans Bride etiquette columnist Dee Lane and originally ran in the Summer 2014 issue of the magazine.


Question: Our invitations are out and we’ve started to receive wedding presents from people who didn’t receive an invitation. Is there a proper way to handle this? Do we send them invitations? Do we send the presents back? Do we write thank you notes and not worry about it?

Answer: You’re going to like this answer. By all means send thank you notes for the gifts you have received. You don’t have to return the gifts and are not obligated to invite those people to your wedding. Just enjoy that they care enough to think of you.



Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.