Wediquette Wednesday: How do we handle receiving gifts from people not invited to the wedding?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.) Today’s question is from former New Orleans Bride etiquette columnist Dee Lane and originally ran in an earlier addition of the magazine.


Question: Our invitations are out and we’ve started to receive wedding presents from people who didn’t receive an invitation. Is there a proper way to handle this? Do we send them invitations? Do we send the presents back? Do we write thank you notes and not worry about it?

Answer: You’re going to like this answer. By all means send thank you notes for the gifts you have received. You don’t have to return the gifts and are not obligated to invite those people to your wedding. Just enjoy that they care enough to think of you.



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