Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: Our wedding was originally scheduled for summer 2020 but, due to COVID-19, we pushed it to Spring 2021. The earlier version was going to be at night and more formal. For the new Spring date, we’ve decided to take it outside (to be on the safe side) and do an intimate, but fun garden party. We would love for guests to wear spring suits, floral dresses and fabulous fascinators or hats — the more over-the-top the better! The dress code will of course be much different and several friends and family members are asking about it. How do we tell guests about the dress code change due to postponing our wedding?

Answer: First, I’m sorry you had to postpone your wedding. I’m sure it was stressful and likely continues to be as you finalize the new plans. Second, kudos to you for being responsible and putting safety first. Finally, let guests know you understand how the change in plans can create confusion about what to wear, so you are suggesting garden party chic and would love for everyone to get in on the spirit of the day by wearing a light spring suit, floral dress and fascinator or hat. Mention that you’d love for them to get creative with their headwear and that over-the-top is A-OK! Encourage guests to shop their own wardrobe, so that they don’t feel obligated to purchase something new for the event. Then let them know you are excited to see them on your Big Day.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.