Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: My best friend asked me to be one of her bridesmaids and I can’t wait to be part of her Big Day! I love posting special, beautiful, fun and funny moments to my social media accounts in stories and photos, but I know not everyone loves that sort of thing. It would be so fun to live stream select parts of the day for people who can’t attend and bring people along for the ride in my stories. Obviously, I want to respect my friend’s preferences and boundaries, so before talking to her about it, I wanted to get primed on the rules. How much and when can wedding attendants post to social media?
Answer: Bravo for thinking about the preferences and boundaries of others, especially as it relates to social media and for wanting to educate yourself before bringing it up with the bride. Typically, couple’s will figure out a social media game plan in advance. Some have an anything goes policy; while others request a no-cameras ceremony and ask attendants and guests to avoid posting anything until the bride and groom give the green light; then most fall somewhere between. Since you will be with the bride throughout the day, you are in a unique position in terms of access. When you speak to your friend, ask her what she prefers and feels comfortable with and whatever she says, agree to it, even if it’s not what you wanted to hear. If she’s unsure, give her time to think about it and discuss it with her spouse to be. You may get excited the day of and the desire to post could become difficult to resist, but respect her wishes. Most importantly, no matter what, enjoy the memories you make together in real life.
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