Wediquette Wednesday: I already sent a gift for the private, justice of the peace wedding, do I have to send another one for the upcoming ‘big’ wedding?

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Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: I don’t know what to do. My step granddaughter was supposed to get married — big wedding — last March. Due to COVID-19, it was cancelled and they went to the justice of the peace and got married. I sent their wedding gift at that time. Now they are having the big wedding in April. I know that my cost to travel to the wedding doesn’t count. I spent $500 on the gift I sent for the earlier, private wedding with the justice of the peace. Do I have to send another one for the upcoming ‘big’ wedding?

Answer: You already gave the couple a gift, so you are all set. If you want to give them a small, token gift, that’s lovely, but you are not obligated.


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