Wediquette Wednesday: Is it appropriate for us to celebrate our original wedding date?


Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: Our wedding was canceled due to COVID-19. The original date is fast approaching, and my fiancé and I have been talking about how sad we’re going to be that day. It just feels wrong not to somehow mark the occasion. Is it appropriate for us to celebrate our original wedding date?

Answer: It is perfectly natural to feel sad on the day you were originally scheduled to be married. It also is perfectly appropriate to find a way to honor that day. Recently I’ve heard and read about couples planning everything from virtual happy hours or “drive by” visits with their attendants and family. For cohabitating couples, setting aside time for a private toast or special at-home date night with takeout from your favorite restaurant, wine, candles and music (and maybe even living room dancing to your song) might be a good way to celebrate. The key word here is celebrate. Make it a fun and festive prelude to the now-future Big Day and toast to all of the good in your lives right now.



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