Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: Recently my mom, sister and I were discussing bridal showers for my upcoming wedding. A very dear friend of my fiancé’s family is hosting one for his side, but my maid of honor isn’t able to fulfill this particular duty and host one for my side. She has a lot going on in her life at the moment, including some financial goals she’s working toward, so it’s perfectly understandable and not at all a problem. Because of this, my sister has offered to host one. (My sister is not in the wedding party for other equally valid reasons and she adores my maid of honor — no drama here, thankfully!) My mom says family members of the couple aren’t supposed to host showers. Is that true? Is it OK for my sister to host one of my bridal showers?

Answer: Your mom is correct that traditionally, a family member wouldn’t host a shower, because it could be seen as a gift grab. That has changed however and it’s acceptable for friends, family members and anyone else to host a shower in honor of the couple.


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