Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My husband and I just received a wedding save the date for the daughter of a close friend. We are close to not only the parents, but also their lovely daughter and her fiancé. Sharing in the moment they tie the knot has been something we’ve looked forward too since the engagement, but we have another important commitment earlier that evening. Is it OK to skip the ceremony and attend only the reception?

Answer: It’s customary to attend the ceremony if you are planning to be at the reception. Typically, it’s OK to skip the reception in favor of going only to the ceremony and not vice versa. However, as long as you have a good reason for missing the ceremony and share that with the couple, it’s permissible. Be sure to communicate to the bride and groom, as well as the bride’s parents (since you are close friends) that you hate to miss the ceremony and briefly explain the other commitment. This will help curb potential hurt feelings. If time and budget permit, consider having the family over for a pre-wedding luncheon, to show your support and give them a little extra love.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.



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