Wediquette Wednesday: Is it tacky to go in on a group wedding gift?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: My cousin is getting married in a couple of months. In my family we have six cousins that all grew up together and we are all close, with a couple of us even serving as bridesmaids and groomsmen in the wedding party. The cousin getting married is the oldest of our group and the first one to tie the knot. The rest of us are still in college or just starting out in our careers and on tight budgets. We are talking about going in on one of the bigger gifts on the couple’s registry but weren’t sure if that was OK. Is it tacky to go in on a group wedding gift? 

Answer: How fun that you all have stayed close into adulthood. It sounds like you’ve come up with the perfect solution on how to celebrate your cousin without anyone breaking the bank. It’s absolutely acceptable — and not at all tacky — to chip in on a group gift. Just be sure to put everyone’s name on the card so the couple knows who to thank!

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