Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: Since being invited to my friend’s wedding, my longtime boyfriend and I have broken up. The invitation was addressed to me plus a guest and we already returned the R.S.V.P. Can I bring my best friend instead or do I have to go solo? Also, how do I change my R.S.V.P. with the couple?

Answer: First, I’m sorry to hear about your breakup. Since the invitation was to you “and guest” it’s fine to bring your friend. As a courtesy, you may want to give the couple a heads up, but since your plus one is accounted for, it isn’t mandatory. If the invitation were addressed to you and your boyfriend, my advice would be to change your R.S.V.P. to omit him, and attend sans plus one, because asking to bring an alternate guest would put the couple on the spot. Weddings can be an especially hard time when you are healing from heartache, so it’s good that you have a friend who can come with you, keep your spirits up and help you enjoy the festivities.


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