Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)
Question: I’m attending my first shower in a few weeks and don’t know the rules. I know you are supposed to send a wedding gift in advance of the wedding, so the couple doesn’t have to schlep home a truckload of presents. But what about the shower? It’s a couple’s shower, so does that matter? Should I send a bridal shower gift ahead of the gathering?
Answer: These are all great questions for a first-time shower guest. You are correct that it is advised to send the wedding gift in advance, for the reason you mentioned. When it comes to showers however — couple’s showers or otherwise — gifts are generally opened during the event, so you’ll want to bring it with you. That said, if you are traveling and it’s too cumbersome to bring it with you, send it in advance. Bring a card or very small token gift to the shower with a note about the larger gift to come, since it’s unlikely that the couple will bring gifts sent ahead with them to the event.
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