Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My fiancé and I got engaged over the holidays. Our parents haven’t yet met and neither set has connected with the other to offer congratulations and set up a time to meet and get to know one another. I know traditionally the groom’s parents initiate this sort of thing, but I think maybe the pandemic has everyone off of their game. Should my fiancé and I plan an introduction and celebration with our unacquainted parents?

Answer: Congratulations on your engagement! You are correct that traditionally the groom’s parents would make contact, but these certainly are strange times. Also, it’s just as common now for the bride’s parents or the couple to do it. There certainly may be some awkwardness there due to the pandemic or, perhaps each couple is waiting for the other couple to make a move. Go ahead and step in. Invite everyone to a casual dinner, lunch, brunch or whatever you feel would be most comfortable and festive for the celebration and bringing together of your families.


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