Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My Groom and I are planning a small New Orleans wedding in October. At 6 months out, we were planning on sending save the dates to our 60 guests. It is a destination wedding, most of our guests will need to stay at least one night In a hotel. With social distancing likely, I’m concerned that we will have to trim our guest list. My venue … is closed and I’ve not been able to reach anyone. Should we send out our save the dates to our original guest list or should we wait? At what point do we scrap the save the dates and just send invitations?

Answer: I’m so sorry you are having to go through so much uncertainty and unusual stress during your wedding planning. It’s good that you are thinking ahead and being practical. It would be most practical right now to hold off on the save-the-date cards. Even if you don’t send them out until four months in advance, that’s still a lot of time for your guests (particularly a trimmed guest list) to plan for their trip. Just be patient and see how things play out over the next month or two.


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