Wediquette Wednesday: What are the best man’s duties?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My brother asked me to be his best man. I know I have to coordinate the bachelor party, but am not 100 percent sure on anything beyond that point. What are the best man’s duties?

Answer: What an honor. Especially when the groom is your brother. This is an opportunity for you not only to celebrate him, but also to lend a helping hand with the many items on his wedding to-do list in the coming months. Here’s a quick list of what the best man usually takes care of leading up the wedding festivities and on the Big Day:

  • Plan and coordinate the bachelor party
  • Assist with general requests from the groom or couple
  • Assist with coordination of groomsmen’s formalwear and pick up groom’s wedding attire
  • Organize toasts for the rehearsal party
  • Ensure that the groom gets to the ceremony on time
  • Keep the officiant’s fee or honorific and hand off to the groom after the ceremony
  • Bring and handle the bride’s ring
  • Serve as the groom’s witness when it’s time to sign the marriage license
  • Assist in coordinating the groomsmen for photos
  • Make the first toast during the reception
  • Prepare the getaway car
  • Return the groom’s formalwear


Most of all, just be there for your brother and enjoy this time together before he starts a new chapter of his life.


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