Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question: My friend told me that our mutual friend plans to ask me to be one of her bridesmaids. I’m really excited, but I haven’t ever been in one and neither has the friend who told me. I’d like to know what I’m signing up for before saying yes, in case it’s more than I can commit to in the coming months. What are the duties of a bridesmaid?

Answer: It’s smart of you to think ahead about existing commitments before saying yes to the bridesmaid’s dress. Before the wedding, typically the bridesmaids help the couple with some of the planning details, attend shopping and fitting appointments, as well as parties and they may even throw one of the showers (but that’s not a requirement). On the day of the wedding, bridesmaids often serve as a go-between with the couple, their parents and potentially other guests, as well as assisting with smaller details throughout the day. They are also expected participate in the receiving line and bouquet toss (if those elements are included) as well as dance, get in on any of the other entertainment or festivities and essentially show all the signs of a person having a good time. Yes, having a ball is a big part of it so enjoy!     

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