Wediquette Wednesday: What are the gifting obligations for a bridal luncheon?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: I received an invitation to my great aunt’s second wedding. She and her husband-to-be are in the 60s and having a very small family wedding, sans gifts. That said there is a bridal luncheon (not shower) in a few weeks. What are the gifting obligations for a bridal luncheon?

Answer: For a shower, whether the couple is accepting gifts for the wedding or not, guests are obligated to bring a gift. A luncheon however is a bit different and doesn’t necessarily require a gift, especially when there will be a shower or multiple showers. In this instance, it would be a kind gesture (and on the safe side) to bring a small token for your aunt. That way, if everyone else brings a gift, you won’t feel self-conscious. Since she isn’t having a shower, spend the same amount (within your budget) that you would for a shower gift.



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