Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. This week, we are answering a reader question, which was prompted by last week’s post about errant RSVPs.


Question: On the RSVP card marked M_______________, please tell me, what is proper etiquette for that space?


Answer: In the “M” space, write your honorific (Ms., Mrs., Mr.), plus your first and last name. If you have been given a plus one, include their honorific and name as well. Note that for single women, whether or not they’ve ever been married, it’s always Ms.


Here are a few examples:


Ms. Jane Smith


Mr. and Mrs. John Smith


Mrs. Jane Smith and Ms. Olivia Smith


Some guests like to jot a little note to the couple on the card, such as “We are so excited about your Big Day,” or something similar.  This isn’t necessary, but if you opt to include a sentiment, keep it about the wedding, be upbeat and make it brief. When sending regrets, there is no need to offer explanations, lengthy or otherwise, but it’s OK to add, “I’m so sorry to miss it!” Following up to offer regrets via a phone call, in person or along with your wedding gift is a lovely gesture.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com. For more advice by New Orleans Bride Magazine etiquette columnist Dee Lane, check out her most recent column in the new Winter/Spring 2015 issue.